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Tackling Resentment and the Mental Load in Your Relationship: Strategies to Enhance Connection and Communication

Thursday, May 23 | 12:30pm - 2:30pm AT

Research shows that women bear the higher mental load in their relationship, which can lead to increased distress, resentment, and disconnection. Contributing to this challenge are the quick fixes that people use to make changes, like giving lists, or discovering their partner’s love languages. While these strategies can be helpful, they often limit the amount of deeper change that couples need in order to create lasting connection and a fair division of the visible and invisible labour when it comes to dealing with the home, relationship, and kids. This session will identify what resentment symbolizes, break down the mental load (and the challenges to addressing it), and build strategies for attendees to change the narratives in their relationship and how they tackle the common feelings of resentment in their relationship.

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Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a psychologist and couples therapist in Ottawa. For nearly two decades, Dr. Tracy has provided direct clinical services as well as researching, writing, and speaking about relationships. She provides psychological assessments, diagnoses, and psychotherapy to people with a variety of presenting issues, including depression, anxiety, personality-related issues, and stress and burnout. 


In addition to wellness seminars, Dr. Tracy makes clinical knowledge and research accessible to people through her contributions to popular media sites, including Times, Forbes, and Motherly, through her podcast, "I'm Not Your Shrink" and her debut book, “I Didn’t Sign Up for This: A couples therapist shares real-life stories of breaking patterns and finding joy in relationships… including her own.” In addition, she offers online webinars and courses to people all over the world looking to build meaningful relationships with themselves and with others.


A mom of two young children and owner of Ottawa’s mental health clinic, Integrated Wellness, she knows what it means to balance the full load.


Learning Objectives

At the conclusion of this workshop, participants will be able to:

  • Identify and recognize the various underlying emotions that contribute to the experience of resentment, a toxic emotion that erodes the health of a relationship

  • Evaluate their intrapersonal and interpersonal factors that contribute to the experience of resentment and the mental load

  • Integrate a new system to approach the mental load in their own lives (while also understanding the common struggles that their patients may bring to them)

  • Use evidence-based strategies that come from couples therapy to build positive communication and connection within their relationship

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